Tuesday, 31 January 2017

WHY YOU SHOULD ALWAYS BE KINDER THAN NECESSARY



The inspiration for writing this post came after watching a Zoella vlog and seeing a little framed quote saying "Always try to be a little kinder than necessary". The words rang true with a lot of things I've been hearing recently. I know I shouldn't listen to and take on board everyone's opinions - but I do, and I can't help but let them effect me and my choices. I think a lot of this comes back to my lack of confidence, which got a massive blow about 6 months ago when me and my boyfriend of 9 years went separate ways. I went from being with someone I thought I'd spend my life with, living in a nice (albeit rented) house, with a job I was pretty good at... To suddenly moving back in with the parents 200 miles away, and being well and truly jobless.
After the initial heart ache and a little time away, I started looking for a job just to get me out of the house... but I soon realised I wouldn't be able to answer questions about why I'd moved back home, or had a little gap in employment without having to relive the break up all over again. This is also around the time when a few people started to make little remarks about why I hadn't got a job, and gotten on with my life a little. I tried to take it on the chin as a little joke, no harm intended, right?


Not too long after, I started a Christmas temp job, which I really did not enjoy in the slightest. I got pretty miserable again, and it made me realise I needed to be doing something in a happy, friendly environment with people to match. I don't necessarily NEED a job... I have the most supportive parents who have kindly let me live rent and bill free since moving home - for which I am forever grateful! So, I decided that part time was for me, it would bring in some income and get me out of the house whilst also giving me time to work on this blog, do a few little freelance bits on the side, and allowing me to watch my beloved Homes Under The Hammer and This Morning (yes, I do like to mention this in every blog post!).
You must be thinking where's this all going? Get to the point! Well, I just wanted to explain how I got to writing this post and that it wasn't just a random thought... My own little story and reason behind why we all need to be kinder to each other... So, carrying on a month or so later in comes my new employer! Although I've only been in a couple of times, so far it just feels right (and I hope they end up liking me enough to keep me on!). I was really so pleased I'd got the job, as with my lack of confidence over the past few months I genuinely thought I'd messed up the interview! I finally felt something was going right for me, and to add to this I'd just started getting a few people contact me about blog work, as well as helping out the lovely Penny from The Little Lending Co with some bits for an upcoming event.
Yet here I am, with it all starting to work out and finally feeling a little bit happier again, and I'm still getting these little comments about what I'm doing with my life. "Do you really want to be working there?" "You need a proper full time job!" "You went to University to get that job?" "You're not even getting paid to help her out?!" "Why are you helping with a wedding event after your break up?" and a whole lot more taking the piss out of my blog.
Yes these are comments from people I know. "But I was only joking" they'll say. Okay, but am I laughing? Do you find my life a joke? Is your comment kind? Is your comment necessary? NO. And so here I am, left doubting everything all over again. A lot of people would be able to take the comments and brush them off. But then a lot of them people have more confidence, a lot of them people haven't gone through a break up and feels like they have to start their life again, a lot of them people aren't me. Everyone deals with things differently, takes comments differently, are going through different things to you, which is why I come to the point that you should always be kinder than necessary! Or plain and simple - just don't be a dick.


Let me know if you've ever been on the receiving end of unnecessarily unkind comments! And if you have, any way of dealing with them too! To finish this off I'm going to leave you with a few quotes (found via Pinterest) for you to think of the next time you may think of being unkind to anyone or making that *jokey* comment!...
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"Always show more kindness than seems necessary, because the person receiving it needs it more than you will ever know"
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"Before you speak, ask yourself: is it kind, is it true, is it necessary, does it improve upon the silence?"
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"Choose being kind over being right and you'll be right every time"
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"If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely"
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"You will never regret being kind"



Outfit:
Topshop Stripe Tee (similar here), Topshop Denim Pinafore Dress, Monki Semi Circle Bag (similar here and here), Superga Polka Dot Platform Trainers

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Tuesday, 24 January 2017

THE PERKS OF WORKING IN RETAIL



Since moving back to Norwich at the end of last Summer, I've been very... let's say "relaxed" at finding a new job. I wasn't really sure what I wanted to do, what direction to work towards, but with this being the first time in over 5 years I hadn't had to pay rent I finally had the time to think. Two holidays, a Temp Job, Christmas and lots of Day Time TV later and I'm still not much closer to working it out. I know things I'd like to have a go at, but it's so hard with no experience in that certain area to even get your foot in the door.
So here I am, with the only "real experience" on my CV as working in retail. I see disappointment or pity on certain people's faces when I tell them what I do. And sometimes, I get it... Yes, my pay barely scrapes above minimum wage. Yes, I sometimes work on weekends. Yes, I'm not using my degree to it's full potential. But you know what, I'd pick a retail job any day over half the jobs people who look down their noses at retail workers have! And here's a few reasons why...


You don't need to pay for the gym! In retail you are on your feet all day, running up and downstairs to stockrooms, and if you work in the visual teams there's SO much lifting to do!... When I worked for John Lewis, I literally would get home from work exhausted... 9 hours of physical work means no need for expensive gym memberships! If I sat on my arse all day at a desk staring at a screen, it may be nice for about a week but I would definitely soon be bored and itching to get up and be more active!


Staff discount! I've worked in places with staff discount on clothes up to 50% off, and beauty and home products with 25% off... combine that with brand discount days, and you could be getting the likes of Whistles, Jigsaw, Miss Selfridge and Levis (just to name a few!) at up to 75% off on brand new lines! Also, lots of larger stores partner up with other companies meaning discounts at Restaurants, Hotels, on Insurance, and more!


First pick on sale items! Ever wondered why you can't find your size even on the first day of sale? More often than not it's because staff have got there first! This was especially the case in my last retail job where we could scan and check the products up to two weeks before sale and then check again for further reductions too... I got many a Warehouse or Whistles item down from £50 to less than £10 after storing them in the stockroom!


Days off during the week are better than you think! While I would still like to sometimes have two days off in a row, it's sometimes nice to break up the days off. Not having to work five days in a row definitely works for me - for one it means no Monday morning dread! And it also means I get at least one morning a week with Phil and Holly... Seriously, I love them guys...! Hours are generally pretty flexible too, so if you have other commitments such as I do, swapping your day off to fit around this is pretty easy. And having days off mid week also means that if you decide you want to do anything like shopping, going for brunch, trips to the seaside, theme parks, London etc. it's going to be much less busy and sometimes a little cheaper than at the weekend too!


You learn and put in to practice your manners! While working in retail doesn't generally require too many skills, it does teach you one thing a lot of people don't acquire - how to be polite! I consider myself as a friendly and patient person, and find it so easy to talk to and help customers... no matter how rude they are! A lot of customers seem to be under the impression that a retail worker knows every single thing about every last item the shop sells, and that if you don't you must be stupid and so can treat you as though you are. There may be times that you just want to cry a little bit - I've had items thrown at me, customers shouting in my face, eyes rolled at me - but by continuing to be kind and helpful, you end being the better person! And being a good person definitely outweighs being a high paid snob to me!

Outfit:
Topshop Patchwork Faux Shearling Coat (similar here and here), River Island Roll Neck (similar here), Topshop Leigh Jeans, Topshop Tan Satchel (similar here), Zara Contrast Ankle Boots


Let me know if you've had any experiences - good or bad! - of working in retail! Can you add anything to my list? Let me know in the comments!

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Friday, 13 January 2017

FIVE REASONS TO VISIT COPENHAGEN


*Before I start off properly, I just want to say sorry for the poor quality photos... I took my tiny (and pretty rubbish!) point and shoot camera to save on luggage space and weight! This WILL be the year I pick up an Olympus Pen E-PL7/8!*

Nyhavn: This is the place where every tourist comes to take a photo, and we were no different! Although a blue sky would have set off the colourful canal beautifully, it was just as perfect lined with Christmas lights instead! While we were there, the cobbled canal was pretty crowded with the festive market and it's customers, but thankfully we managed to find a little warm haven in one of the pubs with a hot glass of Gløgg! A must if visiting in winter and in need a little pick me up!




Fashion: Whilst I know I didn't dress warm enough for the icy wind of Copenhagen's winter weather, nothing I'd have worn would've meant I'd have been cool enough to fit in with how incredibly well dressed everyone was! Honestly, if you need some inspiration for how to dress Scandi-Chic, just have a wander down Strøget... Picture it, Brittany Bathgate's sense of style but on EVERYONE *heart eye emoji*

Outfit:
Topshop Camel Coat (similar here), Marks and Spencer Checked Scarf, Warehouse Knitted Jumper Dress (similar here), Marks and Spencer Knot Detail Shopper, New Balance ML373 Trainers*



Food: My friend I was travelling with is vegan, so we kind of had to pre-plan where we could eat to accommodate this. There were definitely three stand out places we ate at, first being 42 Raw. We went here late morning, so I was in between wanting breakfast and lunch before we got there. As soon as I stepped inside though, their huge bowls of fresh, seasonal salads won me over and I got a mix of two with added avocado. Another place I loved was Mad & Kaffe, which did the most amazing breakfast - allowing you to choose each element of your breakfast. I went for the 5 plate option, which was more than enough... and the smoked salmon was some of the best I've ever had! Last but by no means least, Copenhagen Street Food on Paper Island is a MUST visit. Although it was too dark for decent photos, there was definitely something for everyone - from sushi to falafel, cheesecake to traditional danish open sandwiches. I went for pulled duck chips from Duck It and a pulled pork and pickle sandwich from Oink Oink - and they were both f***ing AMAZING! To add to that, we had some of the biggest and tastiest Gin Cocktails we've ever had from Cocktailbaren... and left very merry!



Shopping: Not necessarily a place a lot of people would think to come as a shopping destination, but I found it had every shop and brand I'd want to visit in London and more. Acne? Check! Wood Wood? Check! Monki? Check! Even Topshop? Check! Not only were fashion stores covered, but the Beauty Halls in the Department Stores were just amazing too - selling everything from Sephora to Kat Von D, Aesop to Anastasia Beverly Hills. All brands and budgets are covered! Or if you're more in to Homeware, the only place you need to visit is Hay - the most beautiful, contemporary Scandi inspired furniture and accessories store there is!



Tivoli Gardens: One of the oldest and most popular seasonal amusement parks in the World, Tivoli is a must visit during the Christmas period and so was top of our list to visit while in the city. It looked absolutely amazing at night, with nearly every inch of the park covered in lights and decorations - from the trees to the roller coaster tracks to the giant trogan style reindeer! It is almost impossible to visit the park without leaving feeling festive. I know, I know, Christmas is only just over... But if you're wanting to book a festive get a way - Copenhagen and Tivoli Gardens has to be top of your list!



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Tuesday, 10 January 2017

HOW TO WEAR WHITE DENIM IN WINTER




Okay, so how is Christmas over? And how has it been three weeks since my last post? Crazy! I hope you all had a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! I'm not one for making proper resolutions, but (as I always say) I really want to get in to this blog, and be a bit more consistent with it this year... and as with most bloggers nowadays - maybe even branch in to Youtube!? Did you make any kind of resolutions for the year ahead?
Anyway, on to the outfit! I only got these jeans right at the end of last summer and didn't get the chance to wear them while the sun was still shining. I've been itching to wear these but wasn't sure if I could pull them off during winter... So I was totally inspired to whip out the white after seeing both Kat and Georgia styling up their own pairs quite recently.
Once I'd paired the denim with ALL the black, it did help to make the jeans much more winter appropriate... well, apart from the sting of the cold wind blowing at my ankles! Eep! They were freezing! Thankfully my top half was nice and snug, with the PVC panels basically acting as a blocker to all the elements. I'd forgotten I even had this coat, but after Alexa released her latest M&S Archive collection and debuted her PVC Briggate Trench - that just about every other blogger bought! - my mind was given a little nudge and I found it in the mess that is my coat wardrobe. Though not quite as cool as Alexa's trench, I like that this is a slightly more subtle nod to the high shine trend.

Outfit:
Topshop PVC Panel Coat (I could only find the coat on eBay, but slightly similar here), Whistles Logo Sweatshirt, Monki Semi Circle Bag (similar here and here), Topshop White Mom Jeans, Nike SB Trainers






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